Mind Your Business

People remain unhappy and get wrinkled quickly because of the way they take other people’s matter and life style personal.

They are filled with rage probably due to the way this person dresses, the kind of job this person does, this person’s own belief, and many others, and this person in question might not even know they exist.

Yes you don’t approve of what this person does, move on and mind your business it’s their life after all, but no these people want to be noticed and heard by all means, they follow up on the person they claim they don’t approve of just to get more information to criticize on while that person is busy living life and making good use of their time.

You don’t like me cause I don’t talk to you, okay stay on your own and out of my way, but no you go to meet all my friends telling them how I don’t greet you and interact with you, and I am just here minding my business and staying healthy and you end up with wrinkles on your face cause you carrying irrelevant burden inside you.

You don’t like a person’s way of life, if you can have a talk with that person, advice the person, do what you can as a human being that you are, pray for the person but don’t kill yourself self for another person.

Like people will usually ask ‘Why you taking Panadol for another person’s headache’? Any body who is not willing to change won’t change no matter what you do. And if you keep pushing it, you end up losing your self.

Don’t bother yourself too much about other people’s lifestyle, come to terms with the fact that people are different and everybody can not conform to your own way of living.

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Grace Of God

I was to travel to the village on the 21st of December 2018, and a cousin of mine who was already in the village called me a day before and is like ” Nk, have you made of your mind on when you are traveling and I said “yes I will be traveling tomorrow by the the Grace of God” and he said “you have not made up your mind or what” and I laughed and said “tomorrow by the Grace of God” and he concluded by saying “if you have made of your mind why still include by the Grace of God, what could possibly happen in one night”.

And this left me thinking at the fact that people don’t really understand the power of Grace from God. I might have decided to travel the next day but who knows what God decided; that’s why he is an unpredictable God, you just can’t know his plans. You ask him for this and he gives you something even better.

Grace of God is one thing we can’t do with out and should always pray for.

A lot, make the mistake of assuming little things is by their power. Any thing, change no matter how little is by the Grace of God .

You never ask why you are alive and healthy while some lie in the hospital bed, it’s not because you are better or holier than them, but it’s only by the grace of God. You sleep on a bed while some sleep on the hard ground.

It means more than you think for the Grace of God to be with you and in all you do. When the Grace of God is with you, you will see yourself going beyond your expectations, excelling more than your mates.

Remember to always pray and ask God for his Grace.

Happy Sunday and a very favourable week ahead.

Relationship Talk❤️

Relationships can be beautiful and cute, everyone wants a person to talk to everyday, kisses and cuddles; yea that could really feel good.

But don’t make this a basis for your happiness, you don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy or depend on a relationship to find happiness and confidence.

If you lay your happiness on any human be it your partner, friends, children you are just going to be disappointed.

You need to learn to be happy and complete on your own, this way you don’t jump into a relationship for the wrong reasons and end up taken for granted.

Relationships are also meant to give you joy and peace, but only when you have found joy and peace with yourself.

If you looking for someone who is going to make you feel worthy and useful, you are only a half being waiting for another to complete you.

This way you confuse yourself and open your heart to everyone and give it your all just because you need to feel complete and alive again.

When finally in a relationship you end up expecting too much and draining up that person cause you trying to complete yourself.

There nothing wrong with loving yourself, buying gifts for yourself and taking good care of yourself; this way you know your worth and can’t settle for less.

You need to work on yourself and be matured and stable in most aspects of your life before letting another in.

Find yourself before finding another.

Unthinkable

Ever wondered what goes on behind the scenes, what our celebrities are up to when not in the lime light, or what goes on behind closed doors?

Life is like an exam, and everybody has different question papers. The mistake most people make is when they try to copy someone else.

The fact that a couple displays love publicly, showing off how much in love they are, is not always all there is to it.

Don’t be deceived, that couple could be going through some tough times, everybody and every marriage goes through tough times but they often don’t show it.

They won’t display their arguments and their fights because they want you thinking they live a perfect life.

The rich and famous these days suffer in their marriages, they also go through unthinkable things alone but they would rather die in silence than reveal it, or tell someone about it.

A lady has a good job, drives a big car, lives in her own house and its assumed ‘oh her life must be perfect with a car like that and a job that good she must be living her dream life’.

But nobody knows how she got that job, and what she does to keep it, or if she has a habit she is trying to stop.

Even big companies with respectable reputations, shouldn’t be envied because only those on the inside know what actually goes on and know what it’s all about.

What is done behind closed door defines ones true personality, not all we perceive is what it seems.

Never compare your life to that of another, the best things in life take time and is better appreciated, do it you how best you can, be unique at whatever you do and never give up.

Unexplained

Wanting to be alone most of the time is not a problem. Wanting your own space and privacy is acceptable. Being moody and getting irritated for just no cause is still okay.

Feeling neglected and alone because the few you call friends are not that much of a friend all the time is also not a problem. Still loving the one who hurt you does not have to be explained to anyone.

Being opinionated does necessarily mean you are rude. Selecting friends and those you want around you does not make you a difficult person.

Wanting only few friends does not make you a sadist. Wanting no friends at all, does not also mean you are a sadist.

Not being part does not make you weird. Just because your own way of life is not accepted by people does not make it wrong or weird. Just because everybody is doing it does not make it right.

That people surround themselves around and you feel popular does not mean you are loved and does not guarantee a ticket of help in time of need.

Expressing your self by crying most of the time does not mean you are weak. Finding tears even when the worst happened does not mean you are insensitive.

Financial balance as a basis for a relationship does not make you materialistic. Seeking for more than you already have does not make you ungrateful.

A young mind with big dreams does not mean you are over ambitious.

Some things can not just be explained I guess.

POWER OF FEAR

Fear is a powerful feeling. The English dictionary defines fear as “a strong, uncontrollable, unpleasant emotion caused by actual or perceived threat or danger”. “Actual or perceived threat or danger” meaning most times we fear what is there and other times fear of what we feel is there.

The fear of death kills more people than death itself. Fear is a reason people remain stagnant in life; the fear of change, the fear of rejection, the fear of criticism has prevented a lot of people from greatness. People who can actually change the world remain unknown due to fear of the unknown.

Fear is also a reason for most relationship breakup; fear of your partner not being loyal anymore, fear of your partner leaving you someday and like that you end the relationship toprevent future fears.

Fear of the stigma is a reason victims of domestic violence die in silence; victims of rape suffer the trauma alone. Fear is also a reason why rehabilitation homes are empty because people fear to accept they need help.

Fear of being alone is the reason people stay in relationships and marriages that’s are emotionally and physically tearing them apart.
HIV reaches the incurable stage cause one would fear to take a test. People hardly express their views and opinions especially in the religious aspect due to fear of the unknown.

The fear of how to face tomorrow’s problems and not knowing what tomorrow will bring cause people to take their lives today. Fear stops one from taking life’s risks.

Fear can also stop you from accepting and enjoying the good 2019 has to offer. Fear is also a reason why goals set out for 2019 will not be achieved. Once fear is allowed into our lives, it takes control and begins to make decisions and this can prevent us from reaching our dreams.

The text in the picture above reads: F.E.A.R _ Forget Everything And Run

F.E.A.R _ Face Everything And Rise.

The choice is yours. Make your choice today.

Always remember “the level at which you fear to take a step only shows the level which that step can change your life”. Just do it, take that bold step, make that change; what’s the worst that could happen- ‘death’….. We all die someday, don’t we?

Wishing you a Happy and Fulfilling new year….

‘Wife Material’

Early this year I attended a friend’s wedding and wore this dress that was admired by quite a number a people, requesting to know the store I got the dress from. I actually got the dress inside the market from a second_hand dealer that a lot will call okrika at an affordable price, but people couldn’t tell cause of the way I packaged the dress on my body presenting it more than it actually worth; this just explains how important packaging is. That day I could have also been wearing a dress worth much more and still look ordinary cause it was not well packaged.

It’s all about packaging, the difference between sachet water and table water is the packaging. Water is still its contents, but people still go for table water even if the price is higher. Why? cause it is well packaged.

I still do have a problem with ladies and packaging, we tend to package ourselves or are expected to package ourselves to be the woman a man will see and accept, a man will see and choose to marry in conclusion termed ‘wife material’ and I ask what happens to that woman we want to be? that woman of our dreams. Do our goals and aspirations have to be left out because it is not quite accepted by a man?

Everyone has goals and heights they want to have attained at a particular stage in life, but as a woman I have to limit my goals and lower my heights obviously because I don’t want to over qualified for marriage, cause I don’t want men to be intimidated by me. I have to sit with my legs crossed and hair neatly done until the right man comes and decides how the rest of my life is going to pan out and this way my purpose in life have been achieved.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie wrote in her book ‘Dear Ijeawele’; ‘Teach(your daughter) to reject likability. Her job is not to make herself likable, her job is to be her full self, a self that is honest and aware of the equal humanity of other people’

Diane Von Furstenberg once said “dreams are achievable and you can make your fantasies come true, but there is no shortcut. Nothing happens without hard work”

You can be that woman of your dreams and much more, no one should stop you if you know exactly what you want. A man trying to lower your expectations to suite his does not love you, cause a man who truly values you will support and encourage you. You have all it takes.