I have been on a lot of terrible dates. Many friends of mine, have narrated their awful experiences with their dates especially on the first date.
First date is a really important start in any relationship. Most people already know how far the relationship will go, just from the first date.
Remember you cannot get a second chance to give a good first impression
I was able to conduct a little research on what how to impress a lady on the first date.
These few tips can be used by anyone but was written for the males on how to give a good first impression.
1. Dress to impress.
This is the first and important, because before you even say a word, you have already been accessed as to your looks. Don’t over dress because that would make you look stupid, but put an effort. Never put on a rumpled shirt, never wear slippers. Smell good
2. Let her choose.
This simply means, let her pick the location of the date. Let her choose what she wants to eat, wear.etc.
3. Compliments! Compliments!! Compliments!!!
This cannot be over emphasized, compliment on her looks, the way she walks, how she eats, her smile. Do not ever be short of compliments. This just has a way of making her feel special.
4. Avoid unnecessary phone calls.
Completely avoid phone calls if possible. Phone calls can be distracting. It can be really annoying, like you could have stayed home answering those calls. Taking calls every two minutes while on a date, shows arrogance. If you must take a call say a slight excuse before taking it and make it as quick as possible.
5. Avoid awkward silence.
Its true that interaction is a two way street, but try to keep the conversation coming. Do not just talk about yourself, let her know you are really interested in knowing about her too.
6. Do not ask intimate questions.
This is short for do not poke nose.
Don’t start asking questions like; when last did you have sex? Avoid all topics about exes. This will only make the whole date uncomfortable.
7. Be as funny as you can.
I know everyone does not have the gift of making others laugh. But make an attempt, no matter how small, if she likes you, she will laugh not minding how dry the joke is.
8. Keep eye contact.
This here works like magic. Even if she is constantly looking away keep the eye contact coming. Try to see her soul through her eyes.
9. Hands off.
Avoid been too touchy. No matter how revealing her dress might be, keep your hands to your self. You obviously do not want her thinking you lack self control.
10. Decline her offer to pay.
Yea, I know this might sound off coming from a feminist. But truth is your girl might not be a feminist and her offering to pay might just be a way of testing to know if you can actually handle bills.
11. Walk side by side.
I have been on so many dates where my date would be so fast in walking that I would end up behind; and am like wait for me we on a date not a competition. No matter how slow she walks, don’t walk faster than her, make sure you always at her side while walking.
12. Picture time
It could just be a selfie, but do take a picture with her. You must not necessarily post it to social media, still take a picture with her. This again makes her feel special.
13. Respect her.
This is of utmost importance. Respect her choice,ideas, opinions, presence.
Give her the respect you know she deserve.
14. Be different.
Nobody likes monotony. Everyone wants a change every now and then. So try something different; offer to carry her hand bag. Just try not to be a regular guy.
15. Take home package
This was suggested by few of the women i interviewed, but i still consider it necessary to make sure she goes home with something you got for her. You obviously want her bragging to her friends and family about you, so let there be something to show for it.
These tips here would not be handy for every single woman on earth. People are different with different perspectives. But according to the interview I conducted, this here represents a high percentage of women worldwide.
In conclusion people go on dates for different reasons, but if you want other dates after the first date, you would want to make a lasting first impression.